Welcome to St. Stephen's Episcopal Church in Troy, MI. Each week, Sunday School, Youth Groups, and Adult Faith programs are available to keep you warmed by the spirit of Christ and the fellowship of the community. Check the calendar and the Witness to see what's happening! Wherever you are in your faith journey – steadfast, seeking or unsure – we welcome you at St. Stephen's. Please join us this Saturday or Sunday. We've been where you are, and found a home here.
Contact Susan our priest with any questions you might have.
What to Expect at a St. Stephen's Episcopal Service...All of us had our own first visits here, and we know a new place can be a little strange. Sometimes a short FAQ can help!
What is this place?
St. Stephen’s Episcopal Church. We’re part of the national Episcopal Church, which in turn is part of the
Anglican Communion, one of the great divisions of the world Christian community.
Who is St. Stephen?
Stephen was chosen as one of the first Deacons of the church, and is regarded as the first Christian martyr.
He exemplifies both the ministry of caring for the poor and helpless, and of love and forgiveness for those who hurt us.
What happens now?
There’s often a printed bulletin with an order of service. If there isn’t, you’ll be referred to a page number in the Book of Common Prayer in the book rack in front of you. That book has orders of worship for our normal weekly services, and also for those marking life’s great transitions - Baptisms, weddings, and funerals, especially. You should see a red Book of Common Prayer, together with a black Bible and blue (traditional)
and dark green (recent) hymnals. In the 10:00 a.m. Sunday service, many people pick up the blue hymnal first. The Book of Common Prayer has a long and interesting history.
Will someone tell me when the service starts?
The signal is usually the playing of the processional hymn, or the entrance of the clergy at the front, and the congregation stands up for the opening words. Sometimes there’s no one at all up at the altar at first. Don’t be concerned – we approach the altar with some reverence and formality, and you’re likely to see a procession of crucifer (carrying a tall cross), acolytes, choir, and clergy during the opening hymn. During the six weeks of Lent before Easter, the procession is done in solemn silence.
Standing and Sitting?
Watch the crowd. Some lifelong Episcopalians do it automatically, and the clergy and bulletin provide polite prompts. Generally we stand for praise (singing, Gospel, some prayers, and creed) and sit for instruction (scripture readings, sermons, announcements). Most visitors stand when the rest of the congregation does, although it’s well understood that not everyone can.
Episcopal and Catholic tradition includes kneeling for prayers on the kneeling benches provided. Many of us do so immediately on entering the church, just as one first greets the host in any home. Kneeling is not easy for everyone and is a matter of individual choice.
Am I supposed to join in the service, or may I just sit and watch?
That’s your decision. Typically the congregation joins in singing the hymns, reading a Psalm aloud, and in the responses to the various prayers. At the same time, we welcome visitors from all faiths or no faith, and do not for one moment ask you to recite or sing language to which you cannot subscribe in good conscience. We hope you will take this opportunity to think about how God might work in many different places.
The ushers will pass the offertory plate during the service. You may give what you feel called to contribute to God and the church. Also, please drop a newcomer information card into the offertory plate. This card in located in the back of the pew in front of you. We look forward to communicating with you and answering any questions you have about our church.
Am I supposed to "cross" myself?
You are likely to see some individual gestures of devotion, such as the sign of the cross or bowing at particular moments, such as mentioning the Trinity or the Resurrection, or when the cross passes. These are by no means required, and we would far rather you feel comfortable and take an active interest in the service than feel under any such obligation.
"The Peace"... Am I supposed to hug people?
Typically the officiant will say at some point “The peace of the Lord be always with you.” and the congregation responds “And also with you.” It is usual to shake hands and exchange the same greeting (often informally condensed to “Peace”) with those standing near you. Hugging is never required, but is definitely permitted when two people consent. St. Stephen's parishioners are not shy about wandering up and down aisles and into the choir loft to exchange the welcoming peace with our friends and family.
“Communion of the People”
At this point, members of the congregation are invited to walk up to the altar rail, where most kneel, to receive a small wafer and sip of wine as the Body and Blood of Jesus Christ. This is the profound central moment of the service and emphasizes God’s individual love for each of us. Not everyone chooses to come forward, and no one from the church will ask why or why not. Receiving communion is an act and acknowledgement of Christian faith, and you should feel no obligation to do so simply to follow the crowd.
Etiquette for communion
Even profound moments often have traffic issues. You may notice that the choir receives communion first (they have an anthem to sing right afterward), then the church youth (they have a program starting immediately after service), then the general congregation as directed by the ushers. We usually walk up the center aisle in two lines and return to our seats by the side aisles. You will be offered the wafer by one person and the wine by a second. You may:
- consume the wafer and then sip the wine, or
- hold the wafer, dip it into the wine, and then consume it, or
- simply consume the wafer and decline the wine.
If you’re uncomfortable with taking the steps up to the altar rail, mention this to an usher or stand in your place and we’ll bring communion to you just before or after it’s served to those at the altar rail.
How do I know the service is over?
The clergy, choir, and others leave the altar, but the actual end is a dismissal (“Go in peace…”); with the response (“Thanks be to God.”); and then the extinguishing of the altar candles. At that point most people move quietly to the rear doors, where the clergy always like to greet you. Please introduce yourself to us. A member of our Welcoming Ministry would love to give you a small gift and accompany you to the Fellowship Hour in the Parish Hall.
How do I find out more?
Please contact our Rector or call the church office (248-641-8080) and give us an address. We’d be happy to add you to the list for our newsletter. You are very welcome whether you’re making a single visit to the area or are looking for a spiritual home – joining officially is very easy once you make that decision. We celebrate newcomers and would love to hear your story.